If You Think to Yourself “Im Lost In Life” Here’s What to Do Next
If you tell yourself “I’m lost in life,” let my story help you change.
How to Stop Feeling Lost and Figure Out Exactly What to do With Your Life. It’s a proven roadmap anyone can use to change their life even if they feel lost or don’t know exactly what to do next.
Let’s take a look at my life just a few short years ago. I could definitely relate to the phrase “I am lost.” I could relate to feeling lost in life at a deep level.
I had a 0.00 GPA the first semester of my senior year in college. You read that right, I got F’s in every single one of my classes. I didn’t bother going to class at all. Oh, did I mention I dropped out of school when I only needed three credits to graduate?
I drank 7 nights a week and tried every drug imaginable other than the big three — crack, heroin, and meth.
At one point in my life, I felt super lost in life. I felt lost in life and didn’t know what to do. I hit bottom. I had all the potential in the world and knew I was smart, yet asked myself “Why do I feel so f***ing lost?”
You probably searched this post because you felt like you had nowhere else to turn. Let me be sincere with you. You can definitely turn your life around. I’m not just blowing smoke. I mean it.
In the past five-plus, I went from feeling lost in life to discovering my exact passion and purpose. I know what to do when you feel lost in life because I’ve been through the process myself.
If You Feel Lost in Life, Be Brutally honest with yourself
You’ll never be able to fix your life until you admit it’s broken. Don’t pretend everything is okay when it’s not. You need to take full responsibility for your life up to this point.
Admit that you’ve made poor decisions. Admit that you haven’t been working as hard as you should be. Understand that you get a mental payoff from lying to yourself.
Most people would rather die in a pool of their own rationalizations than change, which is understandable. Honest self-reflection doesn’t feel good. It’s brutal. It hurts. We don’t really want that feedback from the world that shows us who we really are. We don’t want it, but we need it. You need it.
Stop bullshitting yourself. You know the answers to why you’re feeling lost but you just don’t want to accept them. There are a handful of variables we all know we need to work on to stop feeling lost:
- Find a career we don’t absolutely hate (more on that in a second)
- Start taking better care of your body and mind
- Keep the right people in your life
- Stop doing things that make you hate yourself
- Start doing the things you know you’re supposed to do
The entire process begins with a brutal self-assessment. Most people just aren’t willing to look themselves squarely in the mirror. Until you’re able to do that, you will feel lost and stuck.
The Best Motivator When You’re Feeling Lost
One critical point in my life that I’ve written about ad absurdum at this point. I literally had an isolated moment where I decided to change my life. I stood up in my crappy apartment and screamed at the top of my lungs, “I’m not fucking living like this anymore!”
I’d always been an optimist. An idealist. If you’re one of these people, you’ll get tired of the world-beating you up. Or rather, you allowing the world to beat you up.
The incongruency between the way you know your life should be vs the way it is will hit you. This doesn’t mean you’ll ride the wave of motivation that comes from it long enough to change, but it’s your best shot.
These days, most self-help experts will talk about practicing self-care and just loving yourself no matter what. But, does it work? When I was feeling lost, frustration and anger drove me to change my life. Not self-care bubble baths.
You should be bothered and upset that you’re wasting time. It should frustrate you that you feel like a loser. If you tell yourself “I’m lost,” get pissed off until you find something to do.